Thank you for being so vulnerable and open with us about such a personal choice, Kat.
I often think a lot of these feelings come down to the fear of the unknown which is, of course, the path we didn't choose. Now that I'm in my 30s, I've grieved and made peace with the paths I didn't take and love the life I live. But I certainly grieved not living abroad for longer, and not having the traditional career path many of my peers did. (Being involved in the blogging world eases this! I adored my freelance biz!) I'd like to have children someday and it's a huge fear of mine that perhaps I can't, but I won't know. Eek. I'll keep the lid closed on that for now.
Oh thank you so much for reading Michelle and for sharing your grieved paths - I think you're so right, the fear of the unknown is a huge part of it. And, of course, any time our choice is taken away from us is something altogether different.
It's a strange one for me. I have one child. I sometimes grieve the life I could have had without a family, and that includes my husband, weirdly. But sometimes, I also grieve my choice in not having more children, made after receiving a diagnosis of MS. I have to remind myself of all the very valid reasons why I made that choice. It works mostly, but there are always niggling feelings that I keep burried deep
Thanks for sharing this Kate, it really is such a slippery emotion isn't it? It sounds like there are indeed some really valid reasons there for your choices - this doesn't always get rid of the feelings... BUT it can hopefully make them easier to cope with when they do pop up x
Thank you for being so vulnerable and open with us about such a personal choice, Kat.
I often think a lot of these feelings come down to the fear of the unknown which is, of course, the path we didn't choose. Now that I'm in my 30s, I've grieved and made peace with the paths I didn't take and love the life I live. But I certainly grieved not living abroad for longer, and not having the traditional career path many of my peers did. (Being involved in the blogging world eases this! I adored my freelance biz!) I'd like to have children someday and it's a huge fear of mine that perhaps I can't, but I won't know. Eek. I'll keep the lid closed on that for now.
Oh thank you so much for reading Michelle and for sharing your grieved paths - I think you're so right, the fear of the unknown is a huge part of it. And, of course, any time our choice is taken away from us is something altogether different.
It's a strange one for me. I have one child. I sometimes grieve the life I could have had without a family, and that includes my husband, weirdly. But sometimes, I also grieve my choice in not having more children, made after receiving a diagnosis of MS. I have to remind myself of all the very valid reasons why I made that choice. It works mostly, but there are always niggling feelings that I keep burried deep
Thanks for sharing this Kate, it really is such a slippery emotion isn't it? It sounds like there are indeed some really valid reasons there for your choices - this doesn't always get rid of the feelings... BUT it can hopefully make them easier to cope with when they do pop up x